6.12.2018

A Day in Our Life

I wanted to document what our life looks like while Grayson is in Pre-K and Marshall and Charlotte are still going to daycare






5:00- My alarm goes off I hit snooze once and roll out of bed around 5:15

5:15-6:00- I get dressed, do my makeup, let the dog out and make my lunch. I also layout the clothes for the kids and get my coffee and their milk for the car ride. 

6:00-6:25- My Dad shows up a little after 6, on Wednesday and Thursday he comes to my house spends the morning with Grayson and gets him on the bus for Pre-K (more on that later) I wake up Marshall and Charlotte, Sissy hates to get woken up and Marshall usually pops right up. I take him downstairs get him dressed and ready to go, I'm talking shoes and coat on. Then I go back up and pry the princess from her bed. If Grayson is awake he gets her out of her crib and she is happy. If he is not awake and I have to do it she usually cries and fights me on getting dressed.I get them both ready and loaded up into the car and if Grayson is awake I come back in to get my bags and give him a kiss goodbye.

6:25-6:50- Drive to daycare and talk to Daddy on the way. I call Michael every morning on my way into work and we talk about the day ahead. He leaves before any of us are even thinking of moving from the bed (he gets up at 2:30 am and leaves by 3:00) So we chat, the babies yell "Hi Daddy!" 1651654 times. I get to daycare check them in and walk them into their room. They moved up to Toddler 1 a few weeks ago and have finally adjusted but those first two weeks were rough thankfully now they just walk in and start playing!

6:55-4:30 I work and work and work some more. My duties include payroll for two companies, all invoicing, all paperwork for the repair shop, GPS monitoring, reports and more depending on the day. On Wednesday's we have office lunch that my boss buys for everyone other than that I take lunch at my desk and catch up on blogs or I run a few errands.

4:35- I scoop the kids up from daycare. Someday's they come running other days I'm dragging one out by their arm while trying to hold the hand of the other while we navigate the parking lot. We get strapped into our seats and head home. We call Daddy to update him on the time we will be home and let him know about our day.

5:10- We arrive home and it's a mad dash to hug Grayson. "His Babies" as he still calls them are so in love him him it's crazy. I unload my bags and help Michael get ready for dinner. Usually something easy because on Tuesday's and Thursday's Grayson has t-ball. Tonight it was bacon and egg breakfast casserole. Grayson requests a picnic dinner and we say OK because the dining room table is covered in art supplies from earlier. 




5:40- Out the door to t-ball. Michael always takes him to practice and then we alternate Thursday night games because taking the babies to a field by the road at witching hour was enough to do us in we tried it twice and twice I spent the game chasing them and trying to keep them off the field so it's just easier if they stay home when he plays at that field

6:00- I throw the gremlins into the tub. I usually let them play in the water for a little bit and then I give them a shower. Right now they are obsessed with bubbles so if I put a little bit of bubbles in the bottom of the tub I have time to fold a load of laundry while they play. I get them washed up and put their diapers on and then we head up their room. I get them in their PJ's and then I put away their laundry and get clothes for the next day. We move to Grayson's room and put his clothes away and get his PJ's ready for when he get home. It's back downstairs to watch music videos mostly Ed Sheran or TSwift because that is what they shout at me and we dance it out. 

7:00 Back home. Grayson jumps in the shower and the babies get their milk. We all settle in to watch a quick show together or read depending on my brain capacity that day. 

7:45 Marshall and Charlotte head to bed. They have a new routine where they walk upstairs themselves and then we put them in their cribs and they go to sleep. Maybe 2 nights a week we have to go in and tell them to lay down bust most nights they chatter for a few mins and then go to sleep. I take this time to jump in the shower and put some laundry away. Michael cleans up from the day and gets himself ready for the next day. 

8:15 Grayson heads to bed. We read a book in bed we talk about the day and who will be home with him the next day and then I tuck him in

8:30 I'm in bed so is Michael we talk for a few mins and then it's lights out for him. I scroll my phone a little bit and I'm usually lights out by 9:30 ish, if not sooner.




So that's our life. Crazy, busy, some day overwhelming, some days super easy. 

6.05.2018

March April May Debt re-cap

I have been MIA for way to long on the debt updates.

But don't worry we have been plugging along

We bought a new car.

And we cash flowed a ton of it

We traded in the mini van that was more than we wanted to spend on a van anymore and we got a 2012 GMC Acadia 

We reduced our debt by $5,000 and we put a down payment down of 4,000

We are hoping to have it paid off by September.

We had a few emergencies that we had to cover and they are all small but when added together more than we would like but again we are focusing on the positive which is our behavior modification of not charging anymore

I mean 3 years ago if our video monitor had stopped charging we would have charged a brand new one this time we had to wait save up the money and buy a new one. 

We also cash flowed a deck for our pool

I know I know we are in baby step#2 but this was something we knew we needed to be able to use our pool this summer because it's impossible to carry 2 year old twins down a ladder alone.

So we cash flowed that as well. 


But June well June is going to be a big month. We plan on paying off about 3,500 in debt and kicking the truck payment to the curb by the end of summer

I mean the snowball is real and it is amazing. 


Another thing we have been doing is talking about our house

We have a 3 bedroom 1 bath and for a family of 5 we are quickly out growing it and the bathroom situation is less than desirable. 
We talked about moving and doing it now (we would make money on our house and be able to pay off all our debt!) however there is nothing in our price range that would fit our needs. So we have decided that once baby step#2 and # 3 is complete (August 2019) we will be saving up all our money for 6 months and be doing an addition

I have a whole post on what we are going to do coming up next week so stay tuned!

4.23.2018

Happy 2nd Birthday Charlotte and Marshall

Here we are and we have two 2 year old! It's crazy because I feel like we were just bringing them home. Time is not my friend





Dear Charlotte,
Baby girl where to start. Well you are loved. You are the perfect definition of a sour patch kid and you live up to your red hair.
You have both of your brothers wrapped around your finger. They give into your every wimper and demand. You are a little mama already. You are the first to run to anyone in need. You will say "oh sowwy mommy" when anything happens. Like I stubbed my toe the other day and you came over patted my arm and said "You ok mommy? I sowwy you need kiss?" It was so sweet. You yell to me anytime one if your brothers is crying. "Mommy Sayson cwying!" You say this over and over until I come and see what's going on.



You are still not the best sleeper but we have made great strides. We finally bit the bullet and just pushed through a few hard weeks with you. But you now go to bed awake unwrapped! We usually have to go in and tell you to lay down one or two times. Most nights once you fall asleep you sleep right through.



You love to play blocks right now and take care of all your stuffies. You love to sing to Frozen and you prefer to watch Little Baby Bum because you love the songs. You are a little bit more picky with eating than you were a few months ago but you still eat pretty good. Mac and cheese is your favorite followed by hot dogs dipped in ketchup or chip dip.




You are still a peanut and you have this awesome curly red hair. You are a talker and I have caught you and your brother having full blown conversations in your own little language. Your favorite people are Grayson, Marshall and Libby. You are a mama's girl through and through and always need a few snuggles to wake up in the morning. Stop right now is your favorite thing. If someone is doing something you don't like (like trying to take your toy) you scream "STOP STOP STOP!!!" until they do. You also like to stay Ow but use it in the most dramatic way like when I'm taking your shirt off you will yell OW even though it didn't hurt silly girl.



We love you so much Sissy girl!



Dear Marshall,
Oh Marshy my sweet boy. You have such a kind heart. You are our lover. You hate to see anyone upset you always hug them when they are upset. You are the life of the party. You love to dance and sing. You yell "Elsa" at me about a million time a day because you love the opening song in Frozen.




You are our eater and sleeper. You will try any food and usually you like it. If someone is eating and you are not you are like a baby bird waiting mouth open for a bite. Your favorite foods are chicken nuggets, meatballs, and french fries. You sleep a solid 12+ hours at night and I'm certain it would be longer if Charlotte didn't wake you up. You don't mind if she wakes you up but if Daddy or I wake you up you need a good half an hour



You will play with whatever Grayson wants to play with you. Action figures, Star Wars, doctor, as long as he is playing with you you are happy. Coloring is a close second and you will color for hours. Your teacher told us that you have the hardest time when craft time stops at school you just want to sit there and paint and color all the the long day.



You are a solid boy and you are all boy. You run, jump, fling your self off the couch all the time. You have the best hair and I remember at 2 giving Grayson the big boy hair cut but I just can't with you. Those blonde locks just need to stay longer for a while. You give amazing hugs and squeeze so tight. My favorite though is when I go to pick you up from school and you squeal so loud and yell Mommy! Melts my heart every time! You love love love to be outside. And to be a helper. Every morning you throw out diapers and put dirty clothes in the basket for me. Then you will say "aww doneies mommy" You and your brother wrestle and give me a heart attack daily but you hold your own boy and there have been a few times where your brother has needed my assistance to get you off of him ha! I fear for the teenage years of wrestling matches.



We love you Marshy Mellow with all our hearts!


Happy 2nd Birthday my babies!!!



3.19.2018

Happy 5th Birthday Grayson

5 years ago today I was blessed with this little (big) nugget



Grayson,
You are so sweet. That is the first word that comes to mind when I think of you. You are kind to everyone you meet. You get shy but you always give people a smile. When we had our parent-teacher conference your teacher told us that everyone in your class and the other class wants to be around you because you always say hi and offer encouraging words. My heart just about burst because those are words every Mamma wants to hear. 




You are so into sports. You just finished your first section of hockey and you loved it so much we are signing you up for the second one that starts in April. You also wanted to play t-ball and so we have you signed up for that as well. 



You are still an amazing big brother. I think you have gotten better because they can play with you now and so you just want them with you all the time. It s really cute and wonderful. 



You are obsessed with anything and everything Star Wars, or Avengers. You are well versed in both and can school most people on facts about them. You have an artistic side and love to draw and color all the time. 



You are excelling in Pre-K. You are a little bit sad that you have to move on to Kindergarten at the end of the year because you love your classroom so much and your morning with Papa, who is one of your very best friends! He gets you on the bus two days a week and you have all morning with and you two go on so many adventures. Grocery shopping, the Amish store, banking errand, filling the bird feeders and your hair cuts. It is adorable the way you two are together. 



We are proud to be your parents and while right now you say you are going to live with us forever and always be my baby boy I know one day much too soon for my liking you will be spreading your wings and my wish for you is that you will keep your kind and sweet heart. And that smile! The one that makes your whole face light up. I'm thankful for you Grayson Michael because you made me Mamma you made us a family and for that you hold a special place in my heart. 
I love you more than cake sweet boy!

Love Mamma xoxo 

3.07.2018

February Debt Re-Cap

Happy March!!

February marked a huge milestone for us we are offically done with credit card debt!!!!!


We have paid them all of and closed them.


WE ARE CREDIT CARD FREE!!!!!!

That is so nice to say...

So this month we paid of $2,224.56 in debt

We also cash flowed $535 for oil


And then we had to use our emergency fund......(insert the womp womp sound here)


We had a huge hot water tank debacle.

So at the beginning of the month we noticed that we had a small leak on the seam of our hot water tank. We decided that we would finish paying off the credit card and then save up for a hot water tank.

Well we paid off our credit card and paid for the oil and then the small leak was not so small anymore. So we used our emergency fund to pay for the emergency and got a new hot water tank. We shopped deals and found a good brand for a great price and a pretty hefty rebate.

Michael and my Dad installed it on Sunday. On Tuesday it was leaking. Yes the new one was leaking. On Wednesday my Dad came over and tried to put some goop stuff on the threads of blots and what not (I don't know all the technical things ha!) So Thursday it's still leaking and pretty bad at this point so my Dad who is my hero goes to my house, drains the tank, brings it up to Home Depot so I can run over on my lunch and return it for a new one. He then installed the new one himself because he is that awesome.

So we let it fill up and go through all that and bam Thursday night it is leaking. So we called a plumber and they said what can happen with the brand that we got since it is a cheaper version that they make for home stores it can flood the expansion tank. So we decided to return the hot water tank and go to a plumbing supply store and buy a better hot water tank and a new expansion tank. So Saturday morning Michael and my Dad (again a saint!) installed a 3rd hot water tank and a new expansion tank.

The 3rd time was the charm and so we have nice hot water now!

And we are working on getting our emergency fund back to $1,000

We will have that done this month and then we are starting to hammer away at our 2nd to last loan.

This plan works. The hot water tank situation solidified that to us. Normally we would have charged that on a credit card and said we would take care of it next month. Now it's taken care of debt free!


Another thing that has changed for me in a big way is how I shop for the kids. I used to buy kids clothes and such and just put it on the credit card forget about it and then cringe when the clothes didn't get worn (because of growth spurts and such) or feel guilty because I knew we were still paying for them. Now we have a kids clothing budget and I get to buy freely. Trust me it's not much a $100.00 a month for all 3 kids and some months I don't touch this but with having a girl and no hand me downs I do have to buy 90% of her wardrobe from scratch (the other 10% comes from some very generous aunts and grandparents). So it ebbs and flows and the $100.00 seems to be a good place to be for when we have to buy a spring wardrobe or summer one. I'm super considerate of what we buy. I look at price and function. I don't buy an outfit for just one occasion, which in full transparency I used to do. I'm just free now to spend within the limits we have set out. I no longer have a ping in my stomach when I leave Target because I spent way to much on a credit card I new I would be carrying that around for far too long.


I'm just happy we have chosen this path and I can't wait to see what it holds for us!

2.26.2018

Random laundry confessions

Is it just me or is laundry crazy


We have 5 people in our house

Towels alone for the week are 16-20 towels......a week

You have bedding for 4 beds so that is 4 fitted sheets, we are blanket people to at least 2 blankets per bed so 8 blankets and then 10 pillow cases.

That alone is 4 loads of laundry

Clothes

The kids clothes are smaller but man they go through more. They each have a pair of pj's per day and Sissy and Marshall have a undershirt to go with that. Then they have an outfit for the day. Plus socks.
So in one day we amass 3 pairs of pj's, 4 undershirts, 3 t-shirts, 3 pairs of pants, and 3 sets of socks.

Kids clothes alone I do 3 loads of laundry a week because for sure at least 2 days a week someone spilled on themselves and so outfit changes it is.

During hockey season that is a whole load by it self.


Michael has a load of work clothes

And then we do two loads of our laundry.

11-12 loads of laundry a week......I get why the Duggars needed all those washer and dryers. I would love a double washer and dryer right about now.

How young is too young to make kids do their own laundry?


I usually only have to do one of the kids loads because my aunt washes two loads on Tuesday's when she watches them. She also does a load of towels for us and folds it all. And then everyone said AMEN!!!!

Plus tell me I'm not alone in that I feel like when I'm putting laundry away that's a whole project every time. Kids grow out of thing/stain things every week it seems and so I feel like I'm constantly putting things into piles and re-organizing drawers.
Grayson's clothes have to get packed away for Marshall as he outgrows them. Marshall and Charlotte's clothes get packed up and given to my sister for her one day babies and some of Charlotte's clothes go to my sweet niece Jordy.

I spent 2.5 hours going through the babies dressers organizing and cleaning them out. Then I changed all the sheets, dusted and vacuumed.

I spent an additional 3 hours going through Grayson dresser and the next size clothes that he is growing into and organizing all of that stuff. We went through his books and stuffed animals and dusted and vacuumed his room as well.

I wanted to get our room done this weekend too but ha! That did not happen. So now I have that on my to do this next weekend.


Also my husband has super sensitive skin and I can only use Tide to wash our clothes. I buy the pods and we go through a big container about every 3ish weeks. Oh and my favorite stain spray is the OxiClean Max.....it gets out anything even chocolate stains that someone forgot to spray and you washed and dried the clothes just let it sit overnight and then wash and BAM good as new.



That is just my random laundry talk for the day because it consumed my Sunday!

Happy Monday!

2.19.2018

Grayson's first trip to the eye doctor


About 2 weeks ago I got a call from the school nurse regarding Grayson. My first thought went to that he was sick. But she said no he is fine.
The words she spoke next made me so very confused
"Graysons teacher has noticed that he was having trouble with his colors so she brought him down to be tested for Color blindness and he has failed the test so we recommend that you get him looked at by his pediatrician"

I'm pretty sure I responded with "Um what?" because this was the first we had heard of any concern over him knowing his colors. She sent home the test results and the next day I called our Dr.


In talking to the Dr he decided that the best course of action was to go directly to a pediatric ophthalmologist who specializes in this.  Thankfully there is an amazing one about an hour from us and they got him in the following week.

So Michael took off Friday and my Mom came to watch Marshall and Charlotte and off we went to our 9:15 appointment. We had talked to him about it prior and had approached it as this is something every kid has to do before they go to kindergarten kind of like going to the dentist. No. Big.Deal. We did stress that it was very important that he answer all the Dr's questions when asked and that he answer them honestly. We did this so that he didn't feel any unnecessary pressure like something should be wrong with him. We just wanted him to go into it like it was just another test for school and not because something was wrong with him



 The resident came in and gave him a sight test and then gave him the color test and I could tell right there before anyone said anything that he failed the color test. He got one right and that was the one that everyone can see. She kept saying "Are you sure that you can't see and numbers in this picture?" and he would just shake his head no. All the other ones on the color test he failed. The doctor came in and told us that yes he was in fact color blind and that on a scale of 1-10 he was a solid 4-5. He can see color but certain shades and certain colors are hard to tell between. He is also near sited so he has a hard time seeing things far away but it's not to the point of glasses yet. So we will monitor him every year or take him in if we see him squinting or he starts complaining of headaches. Other than that he has perfectly healthy eyes.

He has the hardest time with darker colors so if red and brown is in front of him it all looks red. If blue and purple are in front of him it's all blue. Black and gray all look gray. Basically if there are too many colors it becomes all muddled and the color there is the most of is what he sees. His biggest color problem though is yellow he sees green every time. He has always said he doesn't like yellow and I couldn't figure out why well that's because he doesn't see it.


Michael and I have processed this and then processed it some more. I want to let you know that I'm very aware that it could be worse. That in the grand scheme of things this is minor. I'm aware. But as a parent any thing that may hinder or change your child's life at all is a blow. So please just know that I'm not trying to act like this is the end of the world. It was just such a shock.

So my first reaction was how did I his mother not see this? How did I not pick up on this? How many times have I gotten frustrated with him for not picking up what I asked him when I referenced a color or getting the black shirt when I clearly asked him for the blue one? How many times has he come up to me and said "Mommy is this the purple crayon?" and I have gotten aggravated with him because "Grayson you know that's not purple" 
Guilt washed over my body. I felt like I had failed him. 

Michael's reaction was different. He wanted to know how to fix it. How do we get this taken care of. And well there is no fix which as a parent it hard to swallow.

Our other big issue is relating to him. I have had to now correct myself on how I identify things to him. For example we were at my niece's swim meet a few days after the school nurse called and he kept asking which one was Libby (we were across the pool and up from her) and I kept saying to him "She is the one with the pink swim cap on" and he continued to ask and then it clicked what if he doesn't see pink? Because he still couldn't point Libby out to me and she was the only one with a bright pink swim cap on. Again a wash of guilt pinged in my heart because I was getting frustrated with him because I could clearly see it so why couldn't he?

I told that story to the Dr. and he said that the further away he is that harder color will be to see.


So the Dr. told Grayson right in the room that he was color blind. Grayson's eye's just got big and he  got really quite. So we talked with the Dr. and then once we got in the car we talked to him about it.
He was so fine with it because really he doesn't know any different.

We have started an open dialogue with him and I just have been asking him more and more what he sees. Plus I don't want him to think that it its wrong what he sees, even if it different from what the majority sees. So the other day after hockey I made a comment about his yellow shorts and he said "These shorts are yellow? I thought they were green!" I told him "nope yellow" He then said to me "Well you do know I'm color blind right?" He has taken this all in stride and really just is not affected by it.

It's just an adjustment. More for me and Michael and the adults in his life than for Grayson. His life is the same but the way we identify things to him has to change a little bit. We are working on it.